Help needed

[Yummy Mummy]

Sorry guys, but I need a male perspective here and thought this was the best place to get it from. I do not understand the way a male mind works, and have given up trying.

The problem is, I have been seeing a guy for a few weeks. He lives 3 and a half hours away, so that is the first problem. Could be the best relationship as we can't live in each others pockets and only see each other every second weekend, or the worst, as the distance could become a bit of a problem.

The main problem is, that everything was fantastic until last week when his dad passed away suddenly. He is understandably devastated and I have made sure I have given him space, and let him come to me when he needs to talk. (which has usually been at 3 or 4 in the morning) What he is now saying, is that he doesnt want me to take a gamble on him because his mind is so $@#* at the moment, and he thinks it would be selfish of him to ask me to be there for him now, and go through this with him, hence he is trying to end the relationship.

He said his feelings for me haven't changed, but he has no idea where his life is now headed and he doesnt think it is fair for me to be taken for the ride. I said I didnt mind, and he said he wants me to be there, but he is just so confused. I have no idea how to help him through this.

Sorry to dump this, but has anyone been through a similar situation, or know how to help someone grieve through the loss of a parent?