Sad News

[GCFordChic]

Originally Posted by Bucknaked

Just give an update to the thread. We never made the funeral. As far as I am aware, it was not being put into the paper as I beleive the family wanted to keep it a private funeral. For which I can totally understand. There were other circumstance's also, but i won't go into it as my information is only 2nd hand. So as far as I know, it was close family and friends only. I also believe that the Pre School will be doing something. Being youngsters, you never know how they will react to this, so it's best to just work with them.

Anyway, thankyou to everyone who passed on their messages.

That is unfortunate but understandable. Hopefully, the fact that the preschool teachers know the kids means they will be able to do something to celebrate her short life in the most suitable way for children of that age. At least they will have a chance to properly say goodbye and perhaps it will be less daunting than a funeral.

Hope your little fella is coping and going well. I hope one day the parents of the girl who passed will find some sort of peace, i cannot imagine the trauma they are going through right now.

Jennifer

[JC]

Bucky - that's no good at all. Is this the little girl that drowned in the bath? If so, her sister is the friend of one of our friend's daughters, and it has been hard even for that older group (they are 11 or 12). Hope the little bloke is doing well through this - I guess the big test will be when they go back to school next week.

[XR-ENVI]

I know it has been a little while now, and that the pre-school have probably done this, but got to your local library, there are heaps of fantastic books for helping children understand death and grief. What a terrible thing for young children to go through, one of their playmates gone so suddenly and tragicly, it would be such a hard thign to deal with as the pre-school teachers also, so many emotions and kids who can be so honest and abrupt with their questions. I hope that its never something i have to go through as a pre-school teacher. A few years ago a young girl i cared for died suddenly, although she was under 2 so the other chldren didnt ask many questions at all.
The internet is also a good place to help you find ways to support your child, and if you need any names of books, let me know and ill have a look through what i have.
Narelle

[red_hotxr6]

That is so sad, and tragic. I could not bear to lose one of mine. Those poor parents, what they must be going through. My sincerest condolences.

[V8falcons]

Again very sad news to hear,I could not begin to think what her parents and family are going through,you just never know with kids,you have to be thinking for them and can never let them out of your or supervisions site.I have a 2.5yo daughter and its tragedies like this scare the hell out of me everyday.

Our deapest condolences go out to the little angels poor family.

[red_hotxr6]

You have to watch them every minute of the day.How about that little boy this week that wandered away with his puppy, they found them nearly 3 klms away.They just move so fast.

[NGN 351]

I am so sorry to hear of your son's classmate dying.
It is vitally important that if your son wants to say goodbye a funeral is the place to go. It is the next step in the grieving process and that is something that we need to go thru otherwise we never take the next step.
I can talk of some personal experience but luckily God did tap me on the shoulder.
I work as a paramedic, had come home from night shift, sat on the top step of my pool , bathing my feet.
My wife and I have a strict rule with any kids that come over, dont enter the pool area with out life vest on, no exceptions.
My wife came out with one of our daughters on her hip to see how my shift had gone, phone rang...
My wife thought I had realised that she had put Hannah down to go get the phone and I turned around facing the other way to pat the dog thinking that my wife had taken Hannah inside with her.
Got that tap on the shoulder...Hannah was face down, less than 2 feet from me and about 6 inches under, not moving. you have heard it before, POOLS ARE A SILENT KILLER.
I grabbed her by her feet, turned her upside down(to drain the water) and went into full paramedic mode..airway,breathing,circulation.
Hannah still had a pulse(but was so fast you couldnt count it) but was not breathing so I immediately started CPR.
Yelled to my wife like you wouldnt believe, get a guts bucket here yesterday.
The look on my wife's face was one of absolute terror.
2 of my paramedic buddies showed up and they were sh#tting themselves as they new it was my house they were coming too,18 month old,resus in progress.
Hannah was unconcious until about 2 mins before the guts bucket arrived but she was still not well, but she survived(thank God) and with out any brain injury. She is a happy little 4 year old !!!
Were we lucky..yes ,as some people get away with it, some dont but this is the most important thing...
Take the time to learn CPR, you never know you might need it to save one of your own. Never did I think I would have to resuscitate one on my own and luckily for me its a skill i use regularly.
Take care and be forever vigilant...

[Ives]

I'm really sorry to hear that.

Prayers to you, your son, your family and the girl's family.

R.I.P

[MO]

ngn351..know where you're coming from..I gave over 30 years as a Rescue Firefighter and did shotgun with the Ambos in The Alice..cpr is a must.

[billyb35]

That certainly is sad news.

I don't know if attending the funeral is the right thing to do. It is a sad time and perhaps the emotions associated with that event may be unneccesarily overwhelming for your son at his young age. If he was close friends to the girl (more than classmates) than I think it would be important but if not, I don't feel it would be neccessary.

As a side note, I think rather than teaching kids to be afraid of the water by giving them life jackets etc and instilling fear, they should be taught to swim at an early age.